tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4832736092361969343.post5416745036401880097..comments2023-08-13T08:56:51.290-07:00Comments on Analyzing Adultery – Why do people cheat? (Tabbi): Cheating & Sex: There's more to it than you think ...Tabithahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12835254651705152822noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4832736092361969343.post-72479428862400626542018-11-05T20:44:47.616-08:002018-11-05T20:44:47.616-08:00I suspected my wife of cheating on me but I never ...I suspected my wife of cheating on me but I never had any proof. This went on for months, I didn't know what to do. i was so paranoid and decided to find a solution, i saw a recommendation about a private investigator and decided to contact him. I explained the situation about my wife to him and he said he was going to help me.I gave him all the informations he required and afterwards i received all my wife’s phones Text messages and calls, I was hurt when i saw a picture of my wife and her lover. I feel so bad about infidelity. but i am glad Mr james was able to help me get all this information, you can contact him via email(worldcyberhackers@gmail.com) or Text/call : +12317945543<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10644256455040756770noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4832736092361969343.post-89309415774644101962012-09-26T21:20:50.783-07:002012-09-26T21:20:50.783-07:00Thanks for your comment Mwamba!
I'm going to ...Thanks for your comment Mwamba!<br /><br />I'm going to disagree with you a little. To be honest if I had to pick one of the scenarios (although I would obviously pick neither!) then I would most likely pick the second. It just seems like the man doesn't care about the women he's sleeping with, it's most likely an issue he has personally. Where as the first scenario seems like there is something lacking romantically in the relationship that the man seeks elsewhere. It just seems like a more serious relationship to have on the side of a marriage...<br /><br />That's just me personally though so maybe I place more weight on these studies since it is my emotions biasing me that way. As Dr. Reeder pointed out to me, other studies have found competing evidence so there's definitely room for variation on this issue.<br /><br />Thanks for pushing me on the topic though, your comment really made me stop and think!Tabithahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12835254651705152822noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4832736092361969343.post-81657758858765430282012-09-26T19:59:19.152-07:002012-09-26T19:59:19.152-07:00Interesting! Tabbi,
Very well written and laid ou...<br />Interesting! Tabbi,<br /><br />Very well written and laid out! Another great job!<br /><br />I like it a lot but something doesn't seem right in the findings. Take the following two scenarios:<br /><br />Scenario 1: A woman finds out after ten years of marriage that her husband has had a girlfriend in Switzerland who he has never met. They have been exchanging letters for 5 years and seem to share a deep emotional relationship from the content and frequency of the letters.<br /><br />Scenario 2: A woman comes home earlier than usual and finds her husband of 10 years as well, physically cheating with a woman he barely knows. Its discovered that he has been doing this frequently with multiple women he barely knows or keeps in touch with for the past 5 years.<br /><br />From the findings, it would mean that most women would rather choose (if they had to choose one scenario to be in) scenario 2?<br /><br />Maybe its just me thinking like a man but I would think anyone would take scenario 2 more seriously. What do you think?<br /><br /><br /><br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13388691717781916710noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4832736092361969343.post-44449504406182547562012-09-26T16:39:15.598-07:002012-09-26T16:39:15.598-07:00Thanks, I'll try! I'm really loving the bl...Thanks, I'll try! I'm really loving the blogging assignment by the way :)Tabithahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12835254651705152822noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4832736092361969343.post-25095505459300377462012-09-26T16:37:43.819-07:002012-09-26T16:37:43.819-07:00You are very close, so only a small adjustment nee...You are very close, so only a small adjustment needed. Keep it up!Dr. Reederhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03736957821156383353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4832736092361969343.post-86093212508485039272012-09-26T14:37:01.486-07:002012-09-26T14:37:01.486-07:00Charlotte, thanks for your comments. I hadn't ...Charlotte, thanks for your comments. I hadn't considered the way that flirty friendships would play into this. Since the study I cite for the majority of this is from the 80s and one of the first on the topic, I don't think they covered that. However, I would guess there are probably other, more recent studies that look at that so it will be something to look into. As I said to Jim, I'm slowly figuring out ideas about what counts as cheating, according to the literature. I'm sure I'll eventually have enough information to write a blog on that topic!Tabithahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12835254651705152822noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4832736092361969343.post-53123807249601789042012-09-26T14:32:29.400-07:002012-09-26T14:32:29.400-07:00Thanks for the feedback. I'm glad you like my ...Thanks for the feedback. I'm glad you like my blogging style, I do find them fun to write! I appreciate your comments about generalizing, it was something I considered myself actually and part of the limitation I have writing about a topic with only two articles. The way around that is to be specific that the findings relate only to the specific article/research in question. It's hard to write in a blog style while keeping that specificity in mind though so I guess that is a challenge for me to work on next time!Tabithahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12835254651705152822noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4832736092361969343.post-50733390962662315302012-09-26T14:29:16.536-07:002012-09-26T14:29:16.536-07:00Jim, it's interesting that you bring up the id...Jim, it's interesting that you bring up the idea of constructionism here because I debated the same idea - nature versus nurture - when I was reading the research this week. Although it may seem biological (it is related to biological sex after all), it seemed that the research pertained more to sex roles, which would be constructed in our specific culture. The more recent of the two articles casually referenced the idea of the evolutionary aspects of jealousy, which I would guess to align with your comments about biology. But, I think culture, what we expect from each gender and how that has developed and evolved over time would also play a role from the constructionist side of things. I guess my point here is that both biology and constructionism seem to be a part of this.<br /><br />As for what counts as physical versus emotional cheating, that's something I still need to outline this semester. I'm slowly working out those ideas with the different articles. I'm sure that will be the topic of a blog post some time in the future!<br /><br />Glad you enjoyed my blog. Hope you're having fun in Seattle and not missing us here in Bosie too much :)Tabithahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12835254651705152822noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4832736092361969343.post-1015271523587393302012-09-26T12:47:06.347-07:002012-09-26T12:47:06.347-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Amanda Sozahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00449722076557316179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4832736092361969343.post-490458158790236932012-09-26T11:45:55.607-07:002012-09-26T11:45:55.607-07:00 I think this is very fascinating. Of course it... I think this is very fascinating. Of course it’s not hard to see that men and women are very different from each other, and that we place importance in differing aspects of relationships. I think it’s interesting, however, to see how “cheating” is held in different regards. I myself agree (mostly) with this study. Overall, I believe women are more emotional creatures, men, more physical. So did this study get into whether a man would get upset if the woman cheats (physically) or gets involved emotionally with another man? I was also wondering how a good friend of the opposite sex would be addressed in this study. Even some of what I would consider the most harmless friendship relationships can involve flirtation, it seems almost inevitable with an opposite-gender relationship. Where do you draw the line? Physical lines are so simple, you did or you didn’t. What about the emotional lines?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08872266392987399639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4832736092361969343.post-39906889340508995182012-09-26T11:33:50.748-07:002012-09-26T11:33:50.748-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08872266392987399639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4832736092361969343.post-36376899966491765222012-09-26T10:07:00.078-07:002012-09-26T10:07:00.078-07:00Tabbi, you are starting to get a nice, easy bloggi...Tabbi, you are starting to get a nice, easy blogging style. The only thing I would recommend is reducing the generalizations just a bit. There was a follow up article after the one you cited that showed men and women don't differ on the sexual/emotional infidelity issue, so you might want to say "one study found.." rather than "this is what we do..." I think that's always a good idea when it comes to the male/female variable. I like that you are really contemplating these issues, and developing follow up questions. Good stuff.Dr. Reederhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03736957821156383353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4832736092361969343.post-64384669610616664342012-09-25T22:35:35.159-07:002012-09-25T22:35:35.159-07:00Tabbi,
Great post! I literally laughed out loud w...Tabbi,<br /><br />Great post! I literally laughed out loud when you said that if you find out your parnter is cheating on you AND they really like them, you have relationship issues. :)<br /><br />I hate to be the one to challenge constructionism in this case, but I think the specific differences between the biological sexes you point out in this particular scenario may be grounded in biology.<br /><br />When a woman gets pregnant, she obviously KNOWS for sure the child is hers and that any resources she spends on raising it are justified. This simply isn't true for men. There is always the possibility that the child could be someone else's and the resources he spends on raising the child do not benefit his genetic lineage. So it would make sense that biological males would be slightly more concerned about physical cheating than females. The male simply has to know that if a child results from sex, that the kid is his.<br /><br />It seems clear that all sexes and genders would be less than pleased with physical and emotional infidelity. I am curious to know if the research you looked at talked at all about what exactly constitutes cheating. It would make sense that there would be variations in what different people consider physical or emotional cheating and that perhaps emotional cheating has even more variability. (i.e. physical cheating could be kissing or intercourse, what does the research say?)<br /><br />I am also interested to see how physical and emotional cheating play out with modern technology in the mix, as you allude to.<br /><br />It seems to me that sensitivity to different types of cheating could be informed by culture and society, but the differences you pointed out here seem to be grounded mostly in biology.<br /><br />This article was really fun to read! :)Jim Wolfehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14662492439071812967noreply@blogger.com